Monday, May 12, 2014

31 Realities of Life for an INTJ Woman

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25 comments:

Lisa said...

"You will post a detailed list on your blog so people will better understand you, and then get frustrated when they don't" Hard hard is it to "get" me?!? I made a list and everything ;)

We are very similar

Karen said...

I know, right?

I've constructed a list, a flowchart and an infographic. If you still don't understand me, it's your own fault...

Thanks for understanding me, even from 3000 miles away. :)

emspeaks said...

This list speaks to me (except for the parenting bits since I'm not a parent), as do the comments after. Well done.

Keren H. said...

This made me SO happy.

Keren H. said...

This made me SO happy you have no idea

nlriviezzo said...

This list resonates with me. I liked the sentiment about the books. Viva la books!

Dog Face said...

Life for an INTJ man isn't all that different from what you've described.

The Liquid Extrovert said...

"If you have to be around people, you'd generally rather be around guys. They never ask how you're feeling and you're not expected to care how they feel. And the conversation is interesting: world events, politics, the finer points of theology." As in INTJ woman myself, I actively disagree with this sentiment. I find sexism in any iteration to be abhorrent. I've had interesting conversations with women that didn't revolve around feelings and I've had horrible conversations with men that were nothing but sports talk and female objectification. I don't judge people based solely on their gender and I would ask that others don't judge me based on mine.

Karen said...

I'm sorry you found this post upsetting. It's based on my own experiences, but many of the points are based on broad generalizations. I have had meaningful conversations with people of either gender, and been bored by conversations as well.

As far as judging people based on gender, well, I do. I believe men and women are different. A lot of the point of this post was how difficult I have sometimes found life as a type rare among the general female population.

I do not believe in treating either men or women better or worse, but I do believe we were created by God to be different. If we can't agree on that point, then we are not starting with the same worldview and will probably not be able to reach an agreement on this and other related issues.

Thanks for stopping by, and for taking the time to comment.

Jennifer Dow said...

Great post Karen. Thank you.

Alyson said...

Created by God?

And you call yourself an INTJ?

Mystie said...

Yes, I do. INTJs love truth.

jong p said...

Thank you for writing this! The voices inside my head actually stopped arguing as I was reading this. :))

Xa Lynn said...

These are perfect! Especially the guy thing - they are so much easier to be around.

vcgray01 said...

LOVE IT! So glad I stumbled across your blog on Pinterest! As a female, Christian, INTJ I definitely get the feeling that there aren't many of us around, but I'm so glad to have found your blog!

"You'll meet other women who understand you, "Get you" and think you're perfectly normal, but only on the Internet and they'll all live far away from you" certainly seems to be proving true, but I have also been blessed with a lot of really great female friends who are close enough on the MB typeology to "get" me. ;)

Ivycloak said...

I relate so much! Except the parenting bit/husband bit, but everything else. . .spot on.

Sophia Dill said...

I thought I was the only one who reworked conversations months later!
I've often been labeled as 'cold' which I've come to accept, but it is a bit upsetting.
Accurate to a fault.

smiley1791 said...

Although most INTJ's tend to not believe in religion or are religious, that does not mean there are no exceptions.

Millie Grant said...

#24 anyone lol

Noni Stremming said...

love this.. yes alien when around other women and their emotional women type talk/ gossip.. can you say flight response.. panic mode where can i run an hide!!!!... as for believing in god.. i am also very religious and one can have a thirst for knowledge and accept a creator...its call truth.. a properly executed hypothesis does not support otherwise. i love knowledge and creation .. there is so very much complexity it cannot be an "accident" its all too perfect...
i have too been labeled as cold .. unfeeling.. robot.. even been bothered myself by my lack of emotional response to very distressing situation.. i may have cried while with people who are crying.. but once i leave the situation its shut off quickly and i feel nothing...even when my own son was in hospital as a baby i felt no response.. i was in what i call auto mode.. do what needs to be done.... keep calm carry on and such...
i love that these classifications have been discovered so i dont feel so bad.. well i still feel bad most of the time.. but at least i know why im a walking paradox

Noni Stremming said...

i'll join your club of "what i should have said"!!! all the time.. months... years after....and the cold part.. ya, i get ya...

Noni Stremming said...

hhahahah.. thanks for the laugh... its so true.. !!!

lwakelin said...

I think we need to be friends. We would have more time for complex discussion than those other moms because we spend fewer nights bathing our children.

morethenlifemommy said...

INTJ Christian here, we do exist.

morethenlifemommy said...

Enjoyed this greatly! I'm blessed to have 3 INTJ friends, 2 girls and one guy. All Christians i may add, we are here but very very rare..... And i totally get the bath time thing......

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