Friday, August 31, 2012

Five Question Friday

1. What do you enjoy doing the most with your spouse?
Oh, my. This is is supposed to be a family friendly blog. To answer this one honestly, I might have to get out my smelling salts for some of my Maiden Aunt Readers. I'm not sure I have any Maiden Aunt Readers, but I guess I'll play this one safe anyway.  {fans self}

So I'm going to go with talking. We stay up way too late talking. I don't think we've ever run out of things to say. Which is amazing when you consider we've known each other since I was four. Yes, four, as in, younger than our Sweet Pea. {mind blown}

The real answer: everything. He's my best friend. Everything, every activity, every experience, is better with him. (Except maybe grocery shopping. For grocery shopping I go it alone.)

2. How do you eat your taco? From the top or from the side?
Gracious - I had no idea there was more than one way to eat a taco. Trying to remember back to the last time I had a taco...side to side. Not sure how you'd eat a Taco from the top. Care to enlighten me?

Anyway, I'd rather make a Taco Salad. I eat that with a fork, just in case you were wondering.

3. Have you ever shut off the basement light and ran like a fool because you knew someone was down there and would get you?
Not in my own basement, but in my grandparents': you better believe it. Basements with scary, strange sounding furnaces were features in both of my grandparents' houses when I was a kid.  I did not want to be down there when the lights were out.

4. If you could change one thing about you what would it be and why?
Superficially: I'd be taller. Life is not designed for short people. This is not, alas, going to change.

Spiritually: I'd like to grow and grow and grow. This, with God's help, can happen.

5. What age do you think is appropriate to have the "bird and the bees" talk with your children?
Boy, combine this with the Question #1 and we are way over into awkward territory, aren't we?

I don't believe in one "big talk". I think you should answer any questions they have as honestly as you can as soon as they're old enough to ask questions. (And here it's good to remember: you only need to answer the question they're asking. A four year old who asks where she came from may only be asking the name of the hospital where she was born. True story.)

As a child grows older the questions change. Add a new baby to the family (or a new cousin) and the questions change. A child ends up watching the evening news or hearing something on the radio and the questions change.

We did have Polly and Tigger read some books about some of these things about a year ago. These sparked a lot of discussion. (Here's a hint: if you have a child who is less likely to ask questions include her in the discussion with a sibling who is. Or read a book or article together and then ask her questions.)

I don't want to be tiresome about this but I think parents dread this too much. Be honest, try to keep your own discomfort in check, explain that these are personal things but not bad things. Talk about God's plan for the family and better yet: live it.

And if I may share a personal pet peeve: when raising daughters do not talk about that "time of the month" as a curse or the worst thing ever. Do not use PMS as a personal "Get out of Jail Free Card" in how you treat others.

Reign in your inner drama queen (harder for some, I know) and treat "that time of the month" as normally as possible. Because, let's face it, from some time in your teens until some time in your forties or fifties (or later!), it will be a normal part of life.

Sorry for the mini-book there. Guess I had more to say than I thought!

How 'bout you? Got any advice on how you shared "the Birds and the Bees" with your kiddos? Want to explain how, exactly, to eat a taco from the top? Fire away in the comments.

This post is linked to Five Question Friday at My Little Life.


retired not tired said...

For the directionally challenged - why is everything designed for tall people?

loribugbabble said...

I totally agree with your last answer. I learned all about my period in health class, never having a discussion with my Mom about it. And when mine started, I was embarrassed and I didn't know how to tell her or ask her for the supplies that I needed. So I hid it for a few months, sneaking what I needed from my sister. And I went a long time thinking that this was something that women shouldn't talk about. Now I'm older and having been through it every month for 16 years (except during pregnancies, of course) I know that things will go much differently with my own daughter.

More Than Mommies said...

I actually did say that I ate my taco from the top! I also eat it from the side, though. My description was that I "trimmed" the top part off so that the good stuff was left!

As far as the birds and the bees talk goes, I've not had to do it yet . . . BUT I agree that it should mostly come from your kids initiating the conversation. Answering their questions will be the best way for them to get the information then need.

However, make sure you know what they are asking about!

I have a friend who's sister explained all about the female anatomy to her 8 year old son because he asked about his grandmother's ANGINA! hehehe Fortunately, he wasn't scarred for life.

Have a great weekend!

Amy said...

You're not joking when you promise to be candid, are you! ;)

I sometimes run like a fool from my living room to my bedroom when I turn off the lights at night. I don't think I could handle a basement!

MacKenzie said...

I was confused about the taco myself until I realized that perhaps they meant a hard taco. I don't like hard shell tacos and I don't really think a soft taco can be eaten from the top but a hard taco probably could be but that doesn't seem wise as you wouldn't get the proper mixture of ingredients in each bite.

And More than Mommies comment reminded me of when my dad spent a bit of time explaining what "gay" meant and only when I seemed very confused did he ask me where I heard it. My answer - the flintstones song. I really only needed him to say it meant happy :-)

Karen@Candid Diversions said...

Yep. That's why I mentioned the "where I came from question". That happened here and it turns out Sweet Pea just couldn't remember the name of the hospital where she was born. ;)

I still can't imagine anyone holding a hard taco up to their mouths and eating from the top. Seems like it would just fall to pieces at that point. Yet another reason I prefer soft tacos or taco salad, I guess.

Karen@Candid Diversions said...

I wasn't anywhere near as Candid as I could have been. And I know we are all grateful for that. ;)

Karen@Candid Diversions said...

I don't know. But it is!

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